Have you gotten to the point where you are “over” spending – as in -you just don’t feel like buying “stuff” anymore?
There was a time when I wanted “stuff” – a nicer car, a bigger television, a newer computer, but now I’m “over” that stage in my life. Seriously. I just want to enjoy the “stuff” I already have, hang out with my family, and live life.
It’s funny how, over-time, our priorities change. Even with our new home, we bought a few things – some new furniture for the den and some decorative items for around the house – but we didn’t go crazy. In fact, one of our goals was to minimize the clutter. We sold, gave away, or disposed of anything that didn’t fit with our new less-is-more approach to living, and we are really enjoying the outcome.
I get the feeling that a lot of people – perhaps due to the recent recession or perhaps due to the over-commercialization of our culture – have simply decided that they have “enough” and that their priorities have changed. My fellow blogger Clever Dude, in a recent article titled “I’m Tired Of Buying And Spending” writes –
…it’s not that I don’t want “stuff”, but when I begin to consider actually buying something I desire or even need, a feeling just washes over me and I lose the urge. I can’t even explain the feeling other than “ugh”…
I can very much identify with Clever Dude. What was once a very strong impulse – the desire to buy – has gone away, and been replaced with an anti-impulse – the desire to not-deal-with-the-hassle-of-buying. Does that make sense? I just no longer have the desire to go out and spend money, even on things that I like.
There is one caveat. I still enjoy spending money – on others. I like to buy nice things for my wife, my kids, and friends. Christmas, as I’ve mentioned before, is my favorite day of the year. It’s also fun to buy things for our home, things that my wife, the kids, and I can all use.
I would love to chalk this new “frugality” up to maturity – and that might be a small part of it – but most of it, to be honest, is just apathy. I don’t really want / need / like / “stuff” anymore. Whatever it was that once drove me to own the newest, the latest, and the greatest – it’s just gone.
What about you? Have you gotten to the point where you are “over” spending? I’d love to read your thoughts in the comments below.