Comments on: Is It Really Possible To Talk With Your Spouse About Finances Without Getting Into An Argument? http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/ Debt Reduction Rocks - We Are Living Debt Free! Sat, 21 Nov 2009 05:27:53 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By:   This Could Be The Day by No Credit Needed http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/comment-page-1/#comment-142041   This Could Be The Day by No Credit Needed Tue, 06 Jan 2009 12:18:19 +0000 http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/#comment-142041 [...] start talking to you spouse [...] [...] start talking to you spouse [...]

]]> By: Shay Jansen http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/comment-page-1/#comment-74194 Shay Jansen Thu, 17 Jan 2008 20:25:22 +0000 http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/#comment-74194 Hi, I found this article in your reveiew section and I am so glad I found it...My husband and I are constantly butting heads over how to budget me I like to know where the money is comming from and make sure it is there no credit wanted or needed he is more like just if it comes up it comes up.....We are constantly arguing over money. He dosn't wnat to know and as far as he is concerned my system is to complicated because I have more then once bank account! I don't see how hard it can be all I ask him to do is look it over and make sure i havn't missed anything important or see if we need to increase in an area? He dosn't like that Idea because it is too complicated for him. But it is so true it is a "I" way of marriage these day's not a "we" marriage. I like to think we have a "we" marriage but when it comes to money it is left up to "I" which I really hate as I was never taught about money never learnt how to save or work on what I want...I am 34 5 kids (2 step 3 natural only two live with us) and I am struggleing now to show my kids the right way to handle money and to make sure they know that paying cash is a good thing not a bad as some see it in my family. It is blogs like yours that are helping me find my feet in the world of frugalism,debt free living and budgeting..and staying on track with our goals for the furture. Thank you Hi,

I found this article in your reveiew section and I am so glad I found it…My husband and I are constantly butting heads over how to budget me I like to know where the money is comming from and make sure it is there no credit wanted or needed he is more like just if it comes up it comes up…..We are constantly arguing over money. He dosn’t wnat to know and as far as he is concerned my system is to complicated because I have more then once bank account!

I don’t see how hard it can be all I ask him to do is look it over and make sure i havn’t missed anything important or see if we need to increase in an area? He dosn’t like that Idea because it is too complicated for him.

But it is so true it is a “I” way of marriage these day’s not a “we” marriage.

I like to think we have a “we” marriage but when it comes to money it is left up to “I” which I really hate as I was never taught about money never learnt how to save or work on what I want…I am 34 5 kids (2 step 3 natural only two live with us) and I am struggleing now to show my kids the right way to handle money and to make sure they know that paying cash is a good thing not a bad as some see it in my family.

It is blogs like yours that are helping me find my feet in the world of frugalism,debt free living and budgeting..and staying on track with our goals for the furture. Thank you

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]]> By: Best Finance Posts from Carnival of Personal Finance #113 at Clever Dude Personal Finance & Money http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/comment-page-1/#comment-28530 Best Finance Posts from Carnival of Personal Finance #113 at Clever Dude Personal Finance & Money Fri, 17 Aug 2007 11:02:10 +0000 http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/#comment-28530 [...] Credit Needed explains how to talk to your spouse about money (without fighting). We’re actually very similar in how we handle money [...] [...] Credit Needed explains how to talk to your spouse about money (without fighting). We’re actually very similar in how we handle money [...]

]]> By: Carnival of Personal Finance #113 Available at My Open Wallet! — The Baglady http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/comment-page-1/#comment-27889 Carnival of Personal Finance #113 Available at My Open Wallet! — The Baglady Mon, 13 Aug 2007 16:54:41 +0000 http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/#comment-27889 [...] Is it really possible to talk with your spouse about finances without getting into an argument — Great article about putting marriage before money. [...] [...] Is it really possible to talk with your spouse about finances without getting into an argument — Great article about putting marriage before money. [...]

]]> By: MomsFinance http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/comment-page-1/#comment-27704 MomsFinance Sun, 12 Aug 2007 09:33:50 +0000 http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/#comment-27704 I am the wife and I must say at the beginning there were tears (and that was just him :) because I didn't want to know about budgeting and planning. We were brought up differently so the challenge once married was reaching a common ground including our finances. I embrace budgeting now and Mr Finance doesn't cry anymore. I am the wife and I must say at the beginning there were tears (and that was just him :) because I didn’t want to know about budgeting and planning. We were brought up differently so the challenge once married was reaching a common ground including our finances. I embrace budgeting now and Mr Finance doesn’t cry anymore.

]]> By: The Friday Gathering for 8/10/2007 | Gather Little By Little http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/comment-page-1/#comment-27473 The Friday Gathering for 8/10/2007 | Gather Little By Little Fri, 10 Aug 2007 12:03:51 +0000 http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/#comment-27473 [...] No Credit Needed had a great article that answers the question: Is It Really Possible to Talk With Your Spouse About Finances Without Getting Into An Argument? [...] [...] No Credit Needed had a great article that answers the question: Is It Really Possible to Talk With Your Spouse About Finances Without Getting Into An Argument? [...]

]]> By: misskate http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/comment-page-1/#comment-27329 misskate Thu, 09 Aug 2007 11:46:17 +0000 http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/#comment-27329 Thanks so much for this post! I'm single, so in some ways I have it easier (I don't have to discuss my decisions with anyone) and in some ways it's more difficult (I don't have the support of someone else working towards the same goal). Michelle Singletary writes the Personal Finance column for the Washington Post. She agrees about merging finances and lives. Money (though I would say more likely a breakdown in communication) is at the root of many divorces and separations. Singletary wrote a book called Your Money and Your Man and it deals with women's finances through single life, dating, marriage and children. She has some other personal finance books out there. I like her style, but she is fairly socially conservative, so it may not be for everyone. Thanks so much for this post! I’m single, so in some ways I have it easier (I don’t have to discuss my decisions with anyone) and in some ways it’s more difficult (I don’t have the support of someone else working towards the same goal).
Michelle Singletary writes the Personal Finance column for the Washington Post. She agrees about merging finances and lives. Money (though I would say more likely a breakdown in communication) is at the root of many divorces and separations. Singletary wrote a book called Your Money and Your Man and it deals with women’s finances through single life, dating, marriage and children.
She has some other personal finance books out there. I like her style, but she is fairly socially conservative, so it may not be for everyone.

]]> By: glblguy http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/comment-page-1/#comment-27279 glblguy Thu, 09 Aug 2007 01:05:09 +0000 http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/#comment-27279 Great post NCN, and in particular your focus on WE and the "our money" part. I think that word is forgotten a lot in marriage in general and in particular when discussing finances. When you start hearing lots of "I's" in the conversation, the problem isn't generally the finances but the lack of communication and recognition that when the wife and husband get married they become one. My wife and I "meet" each Monday night and just review the budget. That way both of us are in sync with how much remains in each category. We do the budget together and agree on it. This in and of itself is a huge stress relief because when we can't buy something we want, it's nobodies fault but the budget. The budget is keeping us from spending, not one of us. I also very much agree with discussing your long term financial goals and getting in sync. I actually printed a copy our both of our goals off and carry them in my wallet where I keep my cash to remind me of our goals. Thanks again! Great post NCN, and in particular your focus on WE and the “our money” part. I think that word is forgotten a lot in marriage in general and in particular when discussing finances. When you start hearing lots of “I’s” in the conversation, the problem isn’t generally the finances but the lack of communication and recognition that when the wife and husband get married they become one.

My wife and I “meet” each Monday night and just review the budget. That way both of us are in sync with how much remains in each category.

We do the budget together and agree on it. This in and of itself is a huge stress relief because when we can’t buy something we want, it’s nobodies fault but the budget. The budget is keeping us from spending, not one of us.

I also very much agree with discussing your long term financial goals and getting in sync. I actually printed a copy our both of our goals off and carry them in my wallet where I keep my cash to remind me of our goals.

Thanks again!

]]> By: Chief Family Officer http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/comment-page-1/#comment-27237 Chief Family Officer Wed, 08 Aug 2007 19:04:41 +0000 http://www.ncnblog.com/2007/08/07/is-it-really-possible-to-talk-with-your-spouse-about-finances-without-getting-into-an-argument/#comment-27237 Awesome post, NCN! I love the way you present things to your wife in a way that’s meaningful to her. Awesome post, NCN! I love the way you present things to your wife in a way that’s meaningful to her.

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